2017 was insane. My head finally stopped spinning and I’m ready to refocus on my blog after putting it on the back burner all year. If you’ve stuck around I just want to say thank you. For real.
I’ve spoken about this a little on social media and even on one of my rare blog posts from 2017. We lived in THREE states this year. Three people. My husband has lived in four states. Stability is not a word I would use to describe 2017. We lived apart for a few months, my oldest went to three elementary schools in a matter of six months, and I put everything on hold to be Supermom. With Daddy working in a different state for a few months, making new friends, and adjusting to so many new surroundings I really had to focus in on one thing. My kids.
Doing so definitely “hurt” my blog and social media presence because I just wasn’t posting more than maybe twice a month. Back in the day, I’d post three to five times a week. Big difference. To make matters worse I totally played into the comparison game that is the darkness of social media. I kept comparing myself to others as not good enough. Or I’d get into the mindset of wondering why anyone would care what I think or have to say. I struggled looking at other people’s Instagram posts who were a size 0 when I’m now a 14/16.
Almost immediately after having a negative thought I would get a random message from someone saying they appreciated my realness or missed my posts on social media. You guys have no idea how much that meant to me. If I didn’t get messages like those I probably wouldn’t be writing this blog post right here.
By the way, if you didn’t know the best way to get to a glimpse of the real/not curated or edited version of myself on social media is my Instastories. I talk about insecurities, positivity, real life, mom life, show you glimpses of my weirdness, and little pieces of my day. I don’t have an “internet personality.” I don’t ham it up for cameras so what you see is what you get. I love Instastories because it’s just like I get to talk or DM you guys as if we were girlfriends in real life. That is what I love so much about this gig.
So if you’ve made it this far in my novel of a blog post lets ditch 2017 and move on to 2018. Sound good?
People seem to choose a word for the year and I never really did it. Well, now I am. My word is B A L A N C E D.
I want to balance blogging about what I love, being a great wife and friend, and not spread myself too thin like I have in previous “successful” blogging years. I want to bring it back to why I started blogging. When I started I didn’t know blogging was a thing, I didn’t compare myself to others, and I was able to balance it all. Sometimes you just gotta bring it back to the basics.
I’m not going to make resolutions. None of us really follow through on all of those anyway, right? So instead, I’m sharing some goals I truly believe I can achieve. No weight loss goals here. Just trying to be an all-around healthier version of myself.
Work out 5x a week. Sounds like a lot. I know. BUT I already paid for a bootcamp like class so there’s no backing out. Once it’s over I can continue the sessions or I may just find motivation for myself. Honest moment: after the session is over 2-3 of those workout days may just be yoga or walking. We will see.
Film YouTube videos again. Look, this is one of my comparison traps. But, I really like doing videos so if you have suggestions please share with your girl.
Be smart about money. My husband and I just read the Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey and are determined to get out of student loan debt. Blogging can be such a consumer-driven market but my goal is to be wise. Choose with intent. You all might have noticed I didn’t do any gift guides and that’s cause this year I kept it simple stupid. We gifted with intent, not with impulse, and truly thought about each one.
Blog at least 3x a week. May not sound like a lot but it is. A lot of time and care goes into a blog post even if it doesn’t look like it.
Maintain a clean house. One perk of not juggling everything else with being a full time blogger is I was able to keep a mostly clean house. For the most part, keeping my home in order was a lot more manageable. It wasn’t perfect because hello..I have two boys. But it wasn’t as maddening as years past.
Read (or listen) to a book a month. Honestly, I read one book in 2017 – Total Money Makeover. And it totally changed my perspective. More on that later. I want to read a variety of books though so if you have a favorite novel/biography/or whatever else kind let a girl know.
Start every morning with scripture. I want to start spending five minutes every morning reading whatever bible plan I happen to be following at the moment. I enjoy parenting, motherhood, and marriage ones the most. Just quiet, a lit candle, coffee, and conversation with Him before the chaos of the day begins.
Cut cable and listen to podcasts. I recently got into podcasts and had them on more than the tv. This goal is kind of a cheat because I cut cable yesterday. My two favorite podcasts at the moment are The Skinny Confidential: Him and Her and Dave Ramsey because duh. Send me your go-tos!
If you read this whole post we are officially friends. Here’s to 2018!